
Nearly four years ago I was fresh out of college, officially living and working in a new city an hour and a half away from home, and getting married in two months. Throughout college, I rode, worked at my barn, and taught lessons when I was home on breaks. But now that I was living in my college town 12 months out of the year instead of just 9, it was time to find some horses here.
A series of contacts led me to discover Tracie, who works at my Alma Mater, attended a church that was one of my clients, and also happened to have horses. I didn’t know her and she didn’t know me. But I sent her an email anyway, telling her about my horse background, that I was looking for someone who needed help exercising or training their horses, and some people she could talk to for personal recommendations. I was going out on a limb for this, knowing she could say “no way” to some complete stranger asking to ride her horses.
But five minutes later, there was a new message in my inbox.
It was more of a book than an email, really. Tracie was thrilled. She and her husband Dave had recently bought two young horses to make their herd four, and didn’t have as much time for the original two horses. They also needed someone with horse experience who could provide animal care on the few occasions they went away.
A few weeks later, I met her face to face and went to their house for lunch, where we spent several hours getting to know each other. It was the beginning of a beautiful friendship.
A Classic Thoroughbred
My second visit out to Dave and Tracie’s actually entailed a chance to ride their horses. My charges were Marahute, a teenage Appy/Arab mare, and Classic, a 20-year-old Thoroughbred mare. At first I split my time between the two. I like a horse that needs a little bit of work, that’s going to keep me challenged and thinking. That was Marahute.
But riding Classic was like coming home.
The 15.2 chesnut with a white blaze had all the trappings of a refined Thoroughbred mare. The delicate muzzle, the soft brown eyes, the long legs. She had a comfortable trot with just a little spring to it and a rolling, gorgeous canter. She was light in my hands and off my legs. And she had that extra little bit of energy that I love in Thoroughbreds.
Classic was willing to try whatever I asked of her. After spending much of her time as a (wonderful) trail horse, she got to play the hunter with me. And she was good at it. She could get that hind end underneath her and have a sweeping working trot, rounding her neck and back just so while staying light. She was such a joy to ride.
Classic reminded me of why I love horses so much, and thoroughbreds in particular. After riding Marahute, who challenges almost every step of the way, Classic was a breath of fresh air. I could feel my whole body (and mind!) relax with her.
Classic could be a little bit of a grump about grooming, was very protective of her space and food, and hated to be tied. But those were just little quirks that we learned to deal with.
She knew exactly who she was, where she stood in the herd, and what she wanted out of life.
The Heartache Of Horse Ownership
When I first met her, Classic was developing just a tinge of arthritis in her hocks. It was just enough to make her the tiniest bit stiff when she first got going, but she’d work out of it very quickly. The exercise was good for her; developing the muscles around the affected joints providing strength and relief.
But over the last year, the arthritis had gotten worse; enlarging her joints, weakening her back end, and making her uncomfortable. Dave, Tracie, and the vet decided to retire her from riding last winter. But she would stand and stare as we rode the other horses, pricking her ears dancing around, making it obvious that she wanted out too. So, Tracie and I would take her out for a bareback walk/trot ride. She’d shove her head into the bridle, drag you out of her stall, and take off trotting when you were mounted. We are all about listening to our horses, and Classic very clearly said she wasn’t ready to be retired yet. So we kept her in light work.
But then in August, Classic lay down for her afternoon nap and couldn’t get back up. She didn’t look too distressed or uncomfortable, she just didn’t have the strength to get those back legs under her. Dave and Tracie almost had to put her down that day, but made a last ditch effort to get her up … and she did.
Even though mentally Classic didn’t want to be retired, physically it was time.
We knew at that point that our days with our well-loved horse were truly numbered. Over the next few months there were more incidents as she continued to weaken. But there were also long grooming sessions, hours of hand grazing, and playing at liberty in the ring. Classic just kept hanging on. It was obvious in her face that she just wasn’t ready to go yet.
Saying Goodbye
The vet and many horsey friends had assured Tracie that she would know when it was time to let go. After 15 years together, with an extra three months to pamper her, prepare mentally and emotionally (as much as you can anyway), and say goodbye, it was time.
Today, for the first time in a very long time, Classic can run without hurting. She can lay down, have a good roll, and get right back up. She doesn’t have to worry about being too weak or hurting too much. She can be young and healthy again.
That’s the gift you’ve given her, Tracie.
Some gifts are more difficult to give than others. And this is a painful one - for all of us. It may never feel like the right decision to let her go. But it was the kinder one.
I know that Heaven is going to be much better than any of us could ever possibly imagine. And I also know that we can’t imagine it without Classic. God loves us and wants nothing more than to bless us, and for that reason I believe that she is there waiting.
It’s not goodbye forever, it’s just goodbye for now.